It is that time of the year, the sun is out (depending on if you are the UK or not), people are smiling, there are neighbours who you didn't know existed telling you hello, cars are clean, grass is cut... you get the idea! Summer has a way of bringing out a spirit in people not seen any other time of the year unless there is a celebration involved.
The kids are off school, they are excited, maybe no homework for a while, #summer clubs, meeting their friends, the beach and a short break elsewhere in the country or another depending on circumstances.
Who can blame them we were there once, but now the shoe is on the other foot we are the parent or carer. Lots to think about, time off work how to spread it, where to go, budgets, family visits if they are close by or if you get along.
No matter the circumstances somehow we must find a way to work it all out and keep everyone pleased. We make it happen and put on brave faces even when the energy levels do not match theirs.
For many all of the above is a great summer, one to look forward to but for some this is not the reality. There can be many challenging reasons for this when it comes to having a family member with additional needs, but there is also some help available. There are many provisions provided by local authorities and organisations who work closely with them. From days out, to weekly clubs, to selected hours reserved only for our families to enjoy some time without the usual big crowds.
If you are not aware of any, have a look on your local authority website or SEND school site, there are normally many signposts to help you. For example if you are in Cambridge one charity run by parents for parents called pinpoint does this directing really well. Cambs SEND Parent/Carer Support from Pinpoint Cambridgeshire (pinpoint-cambs.org.uk
In the UK there are provisions from the local authorities known as short breaks for families with children and teens with disabilities, to take part in a variety of activities, from trips, workshops to just some time out, whilst allowing their families to have a rest from caring duties (also know as respite care). Short break care: how local authorities should provide it - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk)
It is important to take advantage of these and recharge even when we feel like we must or can keep going. We must take that time to look after ourselves mentally and physically, and sometimes get things done that should take 10 minutes but with our responsibilities seem to take all day.
Whatever you decide to do with that time make it yours your body and mind will thank you, remember you cannot help anyone if you do not take time for yourself.
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